This article was written by Kenny Pugh, an awesome speaker, writer and friend!
As seen originally on Black Enterprise..
Is Becoming Roommates the New Marriage Agreement? By Kenny Pugh
As time continues, it is becoming more apparent the old views and principles of marriage are slowly fading away into the sunset. Do you remember til death do us part, friendship as the foundation for love and family dinnertime? Well it seems as if the busy pace of life is now fading-out these once popular elements of marriage.
The values from the 1970’s and 1980’s have now given way to prosperity, self-focused life pursuits and never-satisfied mentalities ushered in during the 1990’s and 2000’s. I have received an increasing number of e-mails and phone calls from married couples that view themselves as roommates instead of spouses.
What are signs of a roommate arrangement?
Roommates tend to live seemingly independent lives while sharing living quarters as a place of commonality. Roommates usually eat at separate times and forego using dinnertime as an opportunity to communicate about their day. Each person does their own thing, but they live together in order to split rent and reduce living expenses. There are many married couples operating under a similar arrangement. They work independently, have separate groups of friends and focus on managing/growing independently without input from their spouse. They manage their expenses individually by splitting the rent/mortgage, while also sharing the cable, phone and electric bills. Busy lives keep them from truly aligning with the traditional marriage model. The only signs of marriage in these relationships are the wedding photos, wedding rings worn by each spouse and the marriage license on display in the living room.